Note from Stacey: Every Thursday we’re thrilled to offer Laura’s Mileposts in the Distance column. You can read more about Laura below.

Still round the corner there may wait, a new road or a secret gate. – J. R. R. Tolkien

The business of getting from one place to another is completely different from the business of movement.  In the 2011 Autumn of Car Travel, I used the same roads over and over, north to south and then back.  There was very little in the way of choice, other than picking the roads that offered the least traffic.

Currently, I am in the business of movement and as I strive for my daily 10,000 steps, I get to choose the routes that fit a day’s time frame or weather or my own particular mood.

When I drive for business, the main part of the journey is spent on I-95 with its roaring eight lanes of vehicles vying to beat the traffic or make good time getting where they need to go.  The next longest road is I-85, the tree-lined route that brings me through northeastern North Carolina lake country up to Petersburg, Virginia.  The former is a grind and passing every exit without hitting traffic is a triumph.  The latter is pretend bucolic – you may only see trees, but there is no meandering unless you want to be run down by an 18-wheel rig.

By far my favorite stretches were from Loudoun County (Virginia) to Washington County (Maryland).  The last 45 miles north (or the first 45 heading home) went from horse and wine country over the rugged shores of the Potomac into the gentle rolling green hills western Maryland.   Yes, there were school buses that interfered with the flow of traffic.  And drivers sincerely uninterested in maintaining a pace anywhere near the posted speed, but those minor annoyances were more than offset by the views.  There was always something to see whether it was mists playing over the trees in the early morning.  Or a setting sun could send shadows of grays and peach and pink playing over fields.  Or vineyards sleeping in the winter.

I saw sunsets mainly on the way north and sunrise on the way south and each and every time I was surprised by something new just around the corner, but I was always so conscious of the final destination that the surprise was taken in at a glimpse, not a stare.

But this business of movement has brought many different surprises.  My walking routes are usually loops that start and stop in the same place.  Some days I make a right when I hit the sidewalk, some days I make a left.  But every day I follow the path as it curves around the neighborhood or the river.  And no matter what, I may walk the same distance, but the trip is never the same.

One way a curve in the river is obscured by a tangle of old forest growth, but if I turn around in that very spot where the view ahead seems obscured, from the new angle the view is open and the flowing water is framed by the branches. In one direction, the winter trees seem to gang up on the sides of the path leaving very little room for any other growth, in the other, the trees are spaced differently, allowing for grassy paths to merge along the side of the main paved walk.

Always the same, always different.

The weather these days has been a little gloomier than the start of this year.  Saturday, I walked while it was raining, but the canopy of trees kept the drops from really hitting the ground with any real intent.  On Sunday though, the rain was really mist and it was an insidious thing, creeping in and around the trees to settle on every surface it could find.

Unlike driving, nothing you see on a walk is glimpsed – everything unfolds as you approach and pass.  But if I turned immediately around to re-experience the view, it would be gone, replaced by something new, yet very much the same.

What I take away from these walks is this:  Savor what’s in front of you.  Drink it in.  Relish the feel of the air and the sky and the sun.  And then let it go because the next step will bring something even better.

Laura Reeth lives in Raleigh, North Carolina with the man of her dreams. With kids off at college, she no longer plays the role of active, day-to-day parent, and has moved into the complex understanding-parent-of-nearly-adult-children role. The main difference is she gets more sleep now.

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“I get up every morning determined both to change the world and to have one hell of a good time. Sometimes this makes planning the day difficult.” ~ E.B. White

When I hear people talking about the “current economic climate” like it’s bad weather, I get the urge to share one of the life lessons I learned from a sweet friend and Zen master—my dog Zoe, who died in 2008.

Zoe was a Golden Retriever, and she loved going for long romps in the woods no matter whether it was raining, snowing or sleeting. From her I learned that there is no such thing as bad weather, just inappropriate clothing.

On one particular walk it was so cold that icicles formed on my eyelashes. At first I thought, “This is ridiculous!” But then I looked at Zoe and how happy she was and I just had to laugh and made a note to wear warmer clothes the next time it was that cold.

And then I noticed something amazing: looking out at the world with icicles on my eyelashes is like looking out at the world through a crystal kaleidoscope. It was absolutely magical. That walk was almost 10 years ago and I still remember it clearly. I’m immensely grateful for that experience and it’s only because of Zoe and her “no bad weather” philosophy that I experienced it.

Now I try to remember that walk when it seems like my life is less than ideal. Am I open to seeing what is amazing and beautiful in the moment? Or, if that’s not possible, can I glean the lesson that the moment is trying to teach me? If you are “experiencing bad weather,” remember that you can put on more appropriate clothing simply by changing your thoughts.

Now I know what you’re thinking—I know because when I told my husband about this article he looked at me skeptically and said that he didn’t think the weather analogy was apt. After all, he said, when the weather is bad you can always go inside your house. But in the current economy people are losing their homes and have nowhere to go.

O.K. Point taken. So let me be clear: Yes, negative events will happen to everyone. And when they happen to others I have enormous compassion for their suffering.

But when they happen to me, I want to focus as quickly as I can on the things that are going well in my life. I want to create more positive things. So, to return to my (I think, very apt) analogy: the fastest and simplest way to create more favorable weather is by changing your thoughts.

Whenever I get down I think of New York City. I love going to Manhattan. Everybody is busy in Manhattan, and everyone seems to have this amazing energy and courage (“ganas” in Spanish). And that ganas gets on you. It sticks.

Of course, I can’t pop up to NYC every time I feel lost, discouraged and overwhelmed—like my big dreams are hopeless and nothing I’m doing is working.

You probably can’t either. That’s why we’re going to talk about getting you into your own personal Manhattan from the comfort of your home.

I’ve learned that even if I can’t just walk out my door and into Central Park, I can pick up a Janet Evanovich novel and read about the spunky heroine, Stephanie Plum, and all the grit and determination she has.

I can watch movies about people with hustle, people who make things happen, like My Date with Drew.

I can read blog posts about people doing the mundane stuff and the scary stuff and the amazing stuff that makes their dreams become real, like Torre DeRoche’s story of going from self-published to landing a huge book and film deal.

I can listen to positive, uplifting songs. If they have a driving bass line, all the better. Take Mary J. Blige’s Just Fine and crank it when you take an afternoon power walk.

Having a real good time, I’m not complaining
And I’ma still wear a smile if it’s raining
I gotta enjoy myself regardless
I appreciate life, I’m so glad that it’s mine.

Or take Jay Z’s Empire State of Mind and sing the chorus loud in you car, just like Alicia Keyes:

In New York,
Concrete jungle where dreams are made of,
There’s nothing you can’t do,
Now you’re in New York,
These streets will make you feel brand new,
The lights will inspire you,
Let’s hear it for New York, New York, New York

These are all things I do—and you can do the same thing. Look at the different ways you can expose yourself to ganas on demand, and keep those things handy. Go to them every day you need a boost.

It may sound silly, but have you ever noticed that the things people call silly are the things that actually work?

I’d love to hear what you do to cultivate an Empire State of Mind and get your ganas on. Please share in the comments!

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Mileposts in the Distance – If the miles aren’t counted are they still worth it?

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Note from Stacey: Every Thursday we’re thrilled to offer Laura’s Mileposts in the Distance column. You can read more about Laura below. Last week, we were deciding whether or not to head to the beach for the long weekend. There were good reasons for and against the trip so we left the dates on the [...]

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My Top 10 of 2011

January 9, 2012

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Mileposts in the Distance – Who can see through all that paper?

January 5, 2012

Note from Stacey: Every Thursday we’re thrilled to offer Laura’s Mileposts in the Distance column. You can read more about Laura below. In my word of the year post, I said that the first steps would be meditating and moving in order to connect with myself.  Fortunately, those were practices already in place when 2012 [...]

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What is Your Body Trying to Teach You?

January 2, 2012

“Stop thinking and talking about it and there is nothing you will not be able to know.” ~ Zen Paradigm I consider my body my most-trusted advisor. I think it assimilates information from the Universe that I can’t understand fully at first. You see, I know the Universe wants me to live my best life, [...]

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Mileposts in the Distance – Word of the Year

December 29, 2011

Note from Stacey: Every Thursday we’re thrilled to offer Laura’s Mileposts in the Distance column. You can read more about Laura below. In a world full of New Year’s resolutions, I have gone the word-of-the-year route for the last four years.  That’s how I got roped into the OBX Half Marathon.  Once I finished with [...]

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How to Create Miracles in Your Everyday Life

December 26, 2011

“There are two ways to live: You can live as if nothing is a miracle; you can live as if everything is a miracle.” ~ Albert Einstein Where do you fall along what I call “Einstein’s Miracle Spectrum”? Do you wish you could live as if everything that happens in your life truly is a [...]

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